I took a mom sick day last month. One that was three weeks overdue, lessons learned, which is the reason for this post.
So I got a stupid cold. One of those colds more annoying than debilitating. Back in the day I probably would have called in sick to work, taken a day to rest and kicked it pretty quickly.
But since becoming a mom, unless I was down and out with the stomach flu, I would take a Sudafed and do what I had to do to make it through the day.
I used to joke, “there are no sick days when you are a mom!”
So fueled by Sudafed I went on with life with a three and six year old. Drop offs, pick ups, classes, play dates, events, you moms know the drill. It just doesn’t stop. So even though I was feeling crappy I just forced myself to keep going. I kept telling myself I HAD to be better the next day.
Fast forward 22 days later. I was STILL sick and hit the wall one afternoon when I broke down and cried with exhaustion. I felt horrendous and I was getting worse, not better.
I realized I needed antibiotics. I also realized I needed to rest and get BETTER the next day.
So I decided to call in sick.
I cancelled appointments, called in favors to friends to help with drop off and pick up, called the neighbor girl to come over for a couple hours in the afternoon to play with my girls, and when my girlfriend asked if she could take my girls from 5 – 730pm and have them returned fed and in jammies ready for bed, I thought I might cry with gratitude. People went above and beyond to help me. My heart felt so full.
I laid in bed for the entire day and within 24 hours, thanks to rest and antibiotics, I finally got better and felt like myself again.
What I learned is that I am human. I get sick, and if my body is sick, I need to listen to it and rest at the beginning to allow myself to get better.
I also learned that friends are more than willing to help. I wrote them all an email and told them how much I appreciated them and how they could call me and I will help them anytime.
People want to help. I want to help others. Don’t you? We just have to be willing to ask for it.
So, moms, I give you permission to take a sick day if you need it. We deserve it and owe it to ourselves, don’t you think?
Have you ever done this?
Amen!!
Have you ever called in sick as a mom?
I’m like you … unless I have a high fever or stomach bug, I play through the pain. Good for you for listening to your body. Outside of sick days, I think us moms sometimes need a mental health day as well. Someday …
Oh, you said it sister! I think taking a “mental health” day every now and again is crucial. This job is amazing, but relentless, so taking a little break every now and again is not a luxury, it’s a necessity!
Good for you, finally taking a mom sick day. It is true, as I fight a cold and laryngitis, I would have easily called in sick if I still worked at my pre-kids job (and I still got paid for those days…oh how I miss it sometimes!) Now that you know you have a wonderful support system in place, I hope you won’t wait 22 days to use a mom sick day! Maybe just 21 days 😉 Take care!
Loved this Post- so easy to try to power through but sometimes just a down day is all you need to mend. (And how foreign does it feel?) XO
Sus, it feels SO foreign. I found myself watching Hoda & Kathie Lee and laughing to myself because I couldn’t remember the last time I laid in bed watching morning television! And, was in further disbelief that they really do drink big goblets of wine at that time in the AM!