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Let’s talk about sex.
This is not a topic I normally talk about on my blog, but after seeing the trailer for a hilarious movie called Sex Tape coming to theaters this month, I had to write about it because most of us married with children people will be able to relate. Big time.
The movie is about a couple, Jay (Jason Segel) and Annie (Cameron Diaz) who have been married for ten years, two kids, are still very much in love, but well, the passion of the early days has cooled off. In an attempt to bring back the heat to their marriage, they decide to make a sex tape, and the private video is accidentally, shared. Oh, the horror!
You just have to watch the trailer, you will laugh out loud.
Keeping the Passion Alive After Children
The moment you have children, or actually, the moment you find out you are pregnant, your sex life changes. Dramatically.
I love it in the movie when Annie says, “How the hell do you get it back?” Because I am sure most moms have wondered that exact same thing.
But you can, I am telling you, you can, it just takes a little work.
Now, my husband and I would never be so brave as to make a sex tape like Annie and Jay. Mostly because I would be paranoid about the possibility of it getting viewed by the wrong people (which is why this movie is so funny to me). But there are some simple ways you can spice things up in your own love life and bring back some of the heat to your marriage.
My Top 5 Tips to Gettin’ It On, Parent Style
In the movie Annie is a successful mommy blogger (LOVE IT) and I felt very honored to be invited to write a guest post on this very topic on Annie’s blog, Who’s Yo Mommy.
Click here to visit Annie’s blog, and look for my guest post on my top 5 Tips to Gettin’ It On, Parent Style.
What do you think?
Do you have any tips on keeping the passion alive after children? Please share in the comments below!
I would have to say creative timing is KEY! The element of surprise is always welcome by your partner. I LOVE that you did this post-this should not be a taboo subject. I mean….we all have kids, right?! If we are in our marriages for the long-haul, why not make the most of it and keep it exciting? Thank you, Jen!! I would love ideas from others here too…
Oh my gosh, it doesn’t matter how many times I watch that movie trailer…I crack up!!! Thanks Jen, for writing about such a great topic for us parents 🙂 I think that finding time for romance is key…that doesn’t have to mean grand gestures. It’s the little things – holding hands, hugging every day, little love notes or texts, surprising your partner with their favorite snack or meal…all of those little things add up and show how much you love each other. Which definitely can spark the passion!
Thanks ladies for your support! At first I was a little uncomfortable talking about sex on my blog, but then I thought, we are all PARENTS how do we think we got to be that way?! Thanks for sharing your ideas! xoxo
You gotta talk about sex on your blog every now and then becuase you’re keepin’ it real! It’s what we talk about with our girlfriends anyway, right? 🙂
ps: now I gotta go see that movie!
i just have to say that i was pretty peeved when i saw this preview during the commercials for an angels’ game … i have children of varying ages 10 and under and i found the ad to be completely inappropriate for what should be family friendly viewing of a baseball game 🙁 … that alone would make me not want to see it even if it’s funny and something parents could relate to 🙁
First off, I can’t wait to see this movie! It looks hilarious! Secondly, Jennifer, I love your tips!
My hubs and I are fans of regular date nights (we shoot for every other week) where we take turns planning something. Always seems to get the romance flowing just by reconnecting with some uninterrupted adult conversation. Our most recent one he even booked the sitter! Talk about a turn on! Ha!
First of all, I have a great big crush on Jason Segel, so this movie’s already on my to watch list. Of course, to see it, I’ll have to get a sitter to go on a date night, which happens so rarely, it will probably be on DVD before I get there… wait, what was I saying? My husband is a fan of the sexy text (although I have a bad habit of turning them into comedy routines), so that gets us through during dry spells…
Sus and Amber, thanks for your tips! Yes, date nights are a must, and the sexy text that turns into comedy made me laugh. I think I would do the same thing! 🙂
Love this and also excited for the movie! Somehow things got even better after having our daughter. It’s almost like we were getting away with something? So I guess that’s my tip…act like you’re getting away with something!
Devon – LOVE THAT.
Love that you’re talking about this. We struggled a lot after kids because we were just so tired so we implemented “nap sex” which worked out well until they stopped napping! My other tip would be to do it even if you don’t feel like it and even if you don’t enjoy it. I went through a season where I just didn’t enjoy it at all because of hormones and other things going on but I knew that if we stopped, it could really hurt our marriage in the long term and be difficult to incorporate the “habit” back in. Besides, why give our men any reason at all to look for fulfillment elsewhere. During those difficult seasons we tried to not let it consume us to the point where we felt like “this is such a big deal and it’s always going to be like this and what in the world are we going to do?!” but rather just realized it was a season. And now after 3 kids we know that we have great sex seasons and not so great sex seasons and the longer we are married the better sex becomes overall. I haven’t seen the movie but I hope it talks about the reality of sex because the movies simply do not show realistic sex. The movies always have girls that are turned on all the time, sex that isn’t messy or awkward, etc. So then we compare our sex lives to those standards and wonder what’s wrong with us when really there’s nothing wrong.
Kristin – Thanks for your thoughts, I love the idea of the “seasons” because really, that is what life is about, and sex is no different. As parents I think it’s important to realize that things will not always be this way, yes, there will be times where sex is great and others less than, but the important thing is to remember connection with your partner, physically, is what it is all about.
This movie looks really funny and I can’t wait to see it. However, the billboard did prompt my 6 year old nephew to ask my sister in law what a sex tape was…glad I didn’t have to answer that! I have no tips for this, except for one to my husband and that is to get the lock fixed on our door! 🙂